This site sets out the ways in which Eva and I have created and maintained a long term relationship over the last 40+ years. When we started out (in 1979) we were not promising material. We argued and fought for the first two years we were together. However we adopted a number of strategies and principles that enabled us to work through the mess and end up in an idyllic place. We still confront issues between us and continue to deepen our love and contact – and best of all the sex continues to be more intense, more exhilarating and satisfying.
My aim in sharing our processes and principles is to help others achieve what they want in their intimate relationship.
What do you want?
Most people only search out material on how to manage a relationship when they are in trouble. If you are in this category go straight to the Crisis Handling menu and follow the route suggested there.
If you are at an early stage of your relationship then I suggest you start with the Principles section and follow your interest from there.
Another group of people that I envisaged using this site are those who have been in a relationship for quite a time and would like to find a way to deepen their connection to each other, or who are interested in using their relationship as a spiritual path. This often happens as children grow up and leave home. If you are in this category then I suggest you start with the section on the Relationship Path.
Maybe you are just interested in exploring using some new tools to improve your relationship. In which case you need to start with Tools.
In case you missed it, Eva has recently published a book that describes in some detail her experience of our relationship over the period 2004-2018. This is a vivid account of her struggles with ageing and how her spiritual path took an unexpected turning. Available as a paperback and kindle book on Amazon.
You can navigate this site using either the menu at the top of each page or using the Fast Access list of pages (either to the right of this text or below it). There is a lot of material on this site, we have learned a lot in 40+ years and I want to explain it as well as possible. If you become fed up with reading on screen there are options in most places to download a Word, or PDF, file that you can print and read at your leisure; a summary of these is included in the Download page (which is under the About menu).